What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

New York Social Diary - Pack your Bags: Destination Weddings

With the coming of the season, Hilary and I have turned our attention to fall, and more specifically, fall weddings. As Hilary’s daughter Sophie prepares to tie the knot this week, we can think of nothing else. What fun to look back on some of the most memorable weddings, both pre & post Covid!


What to Wear to a Destination Wedding 

Adam & Meghan Klopp with traditional Gombey Dancers at Coral Beach Club, Bermuda.
Adam & Meghan Klopp with traditional Gombey Dancers at Coral Beach Club, Bermuda.

What to Wear to A Destination wedding 

Charlotte Morse & Rob Stey, Jackson Hole Wyoming.
Charlotte Morse & Rob Stey, Jackson Hole Wyoming.

What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

Georgiana Bland & David Leben, by the pond in Millbrook, New York.
Georgiana Bland & David Leben, by the pond in Millbrook, New York.

It seems like all weddings qualify as destination weddings these days even if they are in your own town. No longer single service invitations, nuptials have been transformed into weekends of celebrations — the rehearsal dinner, wedding lunch, wedding reception, and Sunday brunch.


What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

Nina Platt & Phil Piro, Mashomack Preserve Club.
Nina Platt & Phil Piro, Mashomack Preserve Club.

What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

Chrissi Rault & Timmy Briggs and family, Mid Ocean, Bermuda — perfectly pink!
Chrissi Rault & Timmy Briggs and family, Mid Ocean, Bermuda — perfectly pink!

What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

Mary Agnes Nixon & Thomas Hunter, Menemsha, Martha’s Vineyard.
Mary Agnes Nixon & Thomas Hunter, Menemsha, Martha’s Vineyard.

What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

Invitation with dates, times, and description of What to wear
A Weekend of What to Wear!

All of these events can be dizzying to plan and pack for, but just remember our creed: “We take the guesswork out of dressing, the legwork out of shopping and the panic out of packing.” To help you along the way, we are sharing  pages from the book,  Packing for Travel, From Trek Set to Jet Set, the Definitive Packing Guide.


What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

What to wear to a Rehearsal Dinner

What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

Meghan’s bouquet of beauties. The girls chose midi or maxi for the rehearsal.
Meghan’s bouquet of beauties. The girls chose midi or maxi for the rehearsal.

Bermuda Formal or the Bermuda Rig or consists of a blazer, shorts and knee socks. It dates back to British Military Officers at the start of the 20th Century finding long pants unbearably hot in the tropical climate. Adam & Meghan Klopp chose this attire for their rehearsal dinner at Tucker’s Point.


What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

L. to r.: BFFs Jack Lynch, KK in Frederick Anderson, and John; Bruce & Davis Colley in full dress regalia.
L. to r.: BFFs Jack Lynch, KK in Frederick Anderson, and John; Bruce & Davis Colley in full dress regalia.

What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

Men in the Bermuda Formal or Bermuda Rig attire
The Bees Knees.

What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

What to Wear to a Day Wedding

A Morning Suit, as the name suggests, is worn before 6 p.m. It consists of a long formal jacket with tails, a waistcoat and striped trousers.


What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

Lilly Baker & James Hottensen, Southampton, New York.
Lilly Baker & James Hottensen, Southampton, New York.

What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

Sarah Chilton & Sebastian Bland, a Chapel in England.
Sarah Chilton & Sebastian Bland, a Chapel in England.

This snappy pink shade is so popular because of a certain someone’s blockbuster movie that it has become neutral, especially when paired with black accessories to give it chicly stated gravitas. It flatters all skin types in its reflected glow.

The New LBD is a LPD — Little Pink Dress!


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Collage of Pink Dresses and accessories for Wedding Guests
Dresses: Teri John By Rickie Freeman Floral Jacquard  $510  /   Chiara Boni La Petite Robe Zarissa Bow Cocktail  $750  /  Milly Kait Embroidered Floral  $695  /  Badgley Mischka Bishop-Sleeve Belted  $550  /  Sabina Musáyev Ophelia Pleated Foi  $335  /  Chiara Boni La Petite Robe Florien Ruffled  $750  /  Teri John By Rickie Freeman Pleated Cocktail  $750  Accessories: Kenneth Jay Lane Gold-Plated & Faux Pearl Drop Earring  $200  /  Loeffler Randall Bailey Pleated Frame Clutch  $325  Shoes: Giuseppe Zanotti Suede Sculptural Sandal  $595  /  Schutz Boris Suede Slingback Pumps  $138  /  Loeffler Randall Melany Velvet Bow Heeled Platform Sandals  $450

What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

Alexis Waller’s Western-themed wedding where Hilary had an uncooperative escort.
Alexis Waller’s Western-themed wedding where Hilary had an uncooperative escort.

A rule of thumb is the later the wedding and reception, the more formal your outfit should be. As the nuptials move to the afternoon, with a dinner following, the attire becomes more along the lines of evening wear. We like being festive in something that has a bit of shimmer, like satin, silk, or brocade. Sequins and jeweled details can also be quite celebratory. But don’t go too far with the sparkle. Remember, the bride should be the brightest star.


What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

Hilary’s perfectly attired family Sophie, Gigi, and Campbell Johnson.
Hilary’s perfectly attired family Sophie, Gigi, and Campbell Johnson.

Traditionally, Black Tie began at 6 p.m. but a wedding at 5 p.m. with a reception to follow, can be considered formal attire.  For this, we suggest a long dress, party shoes, or sandals, sparkling jewelry and a beautiful evening clutch.  And to answer many queries, a short dress is perfectly appropriate for formal occasions; just make sure it sparkles. In our experience, more brides today are favoring Black Tie for their wedding attire.  And why not? Some moments are too special to be anything but formal.


What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

Kiffer LeVine & Hande Okutucu walking down aisle
Kiffer LeVine & Hande Okutucu.

What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

A group of Episcopal Academy graduates — the girls came later.
A group of Episcopal Academy graduates — the girls came later.

What to Wear to A Destination Wedding


Brooke Block & Oliver Kennan, Round Hill, Jamaica.
Brooke Block & Oliver Kennan, Round Hill, Jamaica.

We’re happy to report that florals are still in style and we found some beautiful fall shades …

What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

Florals for wedding guests
Dresses: Chiare Boni La Petite Robe Parvati Floral Jersey Off-The-Shoulder  $1390  /  Cing  á Sept Isla Ruffled Floral Silk  $795   /   Marchesa Notte Ruffled Embroidered Organza   $1295  /  Tanya Taylor Paige Silk-Blend Georgette Ruffled $695  / Tanya Taylor Paige Silk-Blend Georgette Ruffled  $695 / Marchesa Notte Botanical Embroidered Tulle Midi-Dress  $795   Accessories:  Marco Bicego Gold & Diamond Large Double-Drop Flower Earrings  $7150 / Whiting & Davis Flower Crystal Mesh Clutch  $425  Shoes:  Saks Fifth Avenue Strappy Metallic Leather Platform Sandals  $295 / By Far Viva Metallic Leather Pumps  $430  / Shutz Strappy Metallic Leather Sandal  $138

What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

Taylor Rinfret & Tyler Mattus. Hydra, Greece.
Taylor Rinfret & Tyler Mattus. Hydra, Greece.

What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

White party during wedding in Greece
Mama Mia, the White Party!

In many Eastern countries, including China, red symbolizes wealth and good fortune, making it the perfect color for brides.


What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

Bride in red

A White Dinner Jacket can be worn for formal occasions year round in the tropics and in summer in the United States. So dashing!


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Tom & Deban Flexner in Lake Como.
Tom & Deban Flexner in Lake Como.

What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

The bride Gwendolyn Tetrick, boards at Il Sereno Hotel.
The bride Gwendolyn Tetrick, boards at Il Sereno Hotel.

Hilary has been shopping all over for the most glamorous looks. “It is a difficult task to find a Mother of the Bride dress, let alone ones for other weddings I have coming up. For my daughter’s wedding, I called on our friend Paola Quadretti, a fabulous Florentine designer, to make my one-of-a-kind beautiful dress. And then I found these fun frocks as options for fall fetes. As the big day looms, along with a looming hurricane, you definitely want to have your look set and ready so you can enjoy the celebration in full!”


What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

Glamorous Gowns for Weddings Guests
Gowns:  Costarelos Gathered Metallic Plissé  $1704   /  Safiya Ambrette Beverly Crêpe And Satin  $1566  /  Self-Portrait Sequined Cutout  $780   /  Costarellos Kalissa Guipure Lace  $1453  /  Norma Kamali Obie Leopard-Print Georgette  $247  /  Costarellos Lissie Lace, Silk, And Velvet  $2208   Shoes:  Manolo Blahnik Metallic Crisscross Halter Sandals  $875 /Jimmy Choo Platform Sandals  $975

What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

Maria Delgato & Bobby Hottensen, Rancho Santa Fe, Nicaragua.
Maria Delgato & Bobby Hottensen, Rancho Santa Fe, Nicaragua.

For his wedding in Nicaragua, Bobby Hottensen chose khaki pants and guayaberas for his attendants. A stylish and practical choice for a tropical climate.


What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

Lara Glaister & Nick Ferrarone, Lyford Cay, Bahamas.
Lara Glaister & Nick Ferrarone, Lyford Cay, Bahamas.

There a style of popular dressing which I call European Formal, but it is also known as Island Formal. The women are in long dresses, as in a Black Tie invitation, but the men wear suits and ties. This saves packing a tuxedo and is a handsome look.


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Karen and John Klopp

When heading to a destination, be sure to check the weather before you pack and visit the website of the venue to find out the services it provides. Court reservation or tee time?   Massage or blowout? You will need to book ahead for a convenient slot.


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Destination wedding Packing List

And to guarantee a seat at the table, follow our good guest guide …


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12 Wedding Guest Tips

The couple’s websites will list registries for gifts the bride and groom have chosen. If uncertain, there is something wonderful about receiving a personalized gift like an engraved photo frame or the wedding invitation in a beautiful frame.


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Gifts for wedding

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12 tips for wedding guests continued

What to Wear to A Destination Wedding

David Patrick Columbia’s wedding in October 1964

And we’l leave you with out very own David Patrick Columbia’s wedding in October 1964 …

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